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I chance upon someone's blog - writing about relationship, and uses a running buddy as a metaphor for it.
Some points that I felt was pretty apt.
1. When you are look for a running buddy, you often look for one strong than you so that he can pace you better. Your timing can improve over time. Likewise, in a relationship, you always hope to be paired up with someone better. Someone good looking, someone with better status, someone who have much more to offer.
2. Then during the marathon/ run, you often run on your own, hoping that your buddy can motivate you, make sure that you don't give up half way. Yes, in a relationship, you often hope that your significant partner, can be your inspiration, can be your beacon, can be your shining torch under the moonlight.
3. While running, you don't wish your buddy to run too far away from you. You understand how important it is to keep sight of each other so that your buddy knows exactly how you are coping. True enough, in a relationship, distance relationship is always difficult. Lose sight, lose control. But, note - you can stay too close either. Might trip each other and injure both. Keep a safe distance, close enough to observe and react, close enough to shower care & concern, but yet not too close for comfort. Not too close that your partner feels no fresh air.
The most important take away from that entry, is that - all relationships are 2-way.
1. While you hope that your running buddy is stronger than you, your running buddy also wishes that you are stronger. So, maybe we shouldn't be so fix at getting someone better? Should we consider other factors like rapport?
2. While you wish for your partner to spur you on, please remember to encourage your partner along the way. Never mind who is stronger, there will be a point where the strong will falter and be weak. Do your part.
3. When you are the stronger one, you could be running ahead of your buddy too. But you'd need to stay close and encourage him. Don't give up on him when he is at his lowest, even if you don't mean it. Once you lose track of him, you might never get him back. Give him some chance to catch up so that both of you can move on together, faster.
Ok, I think it's meaningful. Nice metaphor. Loving it.
